Go ahead, give it your best shot so you create no regrets; But know when it’s time to let go. The regret of not knowing is quickly overcome by the regret of wasting time and energy on the wrong thing, or the wrong person. Reach out and try, know when to cut your losses – Kenny Rogers sang a song about that.
Someone saw this and commented: I wish I could let go but right now I can’t it’s to hard when you love someone
I totally get that. You have to be ready – I recently ended a relationship I invested a year of my time on, way longer than my friends felt comfortable supporting me. I had to be ready to end things on my own terms, to know that I’d done all I could, and be able to accept that the problem was not fixable from my side.
The thing is that when you’re in that place and you know it’s bad, you really have to be honest about who’s responsible for what and take your share. Owning our own participation in the situation can be empowering, it’s a way to understand that you really do have choice and you really do have control. You may not like your choices – they’re probably not going to change, but you can give yourself time to accept them.
Ultimately, codependent relationships are about feelings of powerlessness and self-esteem. You have to take the empowerment where you can find it, and sometimes you have to rebuild your self-esteem before you can let go.