I’m a big believer in the effects of positive thought on mood and life experience. With the coming holiday, I just wanted to share how thankful I am to have you in my circle so I created this 8.5 x 11 high-quality printable artwork from some Lisa Glanz clipart. Just click on the image below and download the PDF to print, frame, and hang.
Don’t be afraid; You have a choice you can make, you can look back on your life with regrets for what it was and what it was not, or, you can look at who you are today and be thankful for that which made you, for those people and things that allowed you to grow. By choosing gratitude you allow yourself to be free from regrets, and even alleviate some of the pain. When you acknowledge that life is a growth process that never ends you can quit being so hard on yourself and so afraid of making mistakes or misjudgments. Mignon McLaughlin said it so well:
What you are today is the price you paid for what you used to want.
– Mignon McLaughlin
If you find yourself filled with regrets, take time and ask yourself what you would choose to be different in your life? If your life is happy and you’re good with where you’re at there’s no reason to hold onto regrets. If there are things you’d like to be different, things you find dissatisfying, then focus on those things and develop goals that will help you to achieve your hearts desire. And, in all of this remember that you cannot (and have never been able to) control anyone else’s actions only your own, and then move forward to achieve your goals. If you find yourself imagining blockers to change, accept that this is your fears talking, moving past those may be uncomfortable – isn’t a bit of discomfort worth removing the weights of regret?
Your goals don’t have to be big to be “important” they can be very simple. What really matters is your happiness and the satisfaction you find in your life – living a fulfilling life – that’s what it’s really all about. Sometimes when you’re making change it’s easiest to start small, to develop the practice of making different choices and to start questioning how you’ve always done something. Eventually you’ll find it easier, and less intimidating, to strive towards bigger and better things. You’ll learn to let go of fear as you begin to feel the balance shift.
If you find yourself focusing often on regrets, try turning those looks back at the past to more positive memories like your daydreams long gone. If you can focus on what you hoped to have in your life, what you imagined life would be, your passions, or how you thought you’d spend your time, that can help you to plan your path into the future. One thing is fairly certain, unless you try, nothing will change. And, you really can own the fact that the path you’re on right now is not the only one open to you.
No one should choose to settle for regrets.
When I originally wrote this post in September of 1997, I was talking about myself, my life, and my life choices. Little did I know the gritty details of the journey I was on or how drastically my life would change in the 20 years since. Even while being aware of my actions and the impact each might potentially have on my life I didn’t understand that I was holding back because of fear. I didn’t believe in myself and I was creating regrets because of fears and “shoulds” that I was buying into. I ended up spending years struggling with my sexuality, years of denying myself experiences because I wasn’t the right weight, and years missing out because “I didn’t have a partner to share experiences it with”.
I had life-changing knowledge and I couldn’t accept it fully until I was really ready. I can tell you that once I was ready the regrets I’d created slipped away, once I understood what I had been unable to see about myself the things I was struggling with were no longer important. Perhaps there’s another lesson in that?
In March of 2017, I found this really lovely TED Talk by Mel Robbins discussing how to live your life without creating regrets in the form of “I wish…”. I hope you enjoy it.
The only thing in your way is you. Make it happen.
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It’s the little things that keep you stuck. Those tiny habits and choices that add up to the unconscious moments of your life. For instance: What thoughts are you thinking? Are they positive or negative? Are you drinking too much caffeine, using too much sugar or sweetener? Are you pushing snooze one time too many? Always attracted to the “bad boy” or “bad girl”. Always shopping at the same store, going through the same comfortable movements? You need to go where you don’t know what to expect in order to make real change. Big changes can feel good, but they aren’t always lasting if you don’t make small changes to support it. It’s like dropping a people in calm water, the littlest things can make the biggest ripples in your life.
Growth isn’t always comfortable, I might go so far as to say that growth within ones comfort level is probably not growing at all. I’m at odds, feeling an urgency to work, but also, the need to take care and time to let things flow and it’s a struggle. I need to give myself time. I almost feel like the need I feel for companionship is just a way of distracting myself from investing in me. Self-sabotage has been something of an art form in my past. I’m scared because I’m letting go, scared because I know the answers I want are on the other side of chaos. My life is beautiful and perfect in its current state of disarray, and that’s wonderful and terrifying. I deserve to see what’s beyond the borders of Should, Must, & Expectations – patience is my friend.
Living a life of gratitude has helped me manage anxiety and introversion – it takes practice, mindfulness, and patience. I started small by looking for vignettes that made me smile, listened for my children’s laughter, thought of ways that I was better off than others; That was two decades ago. Now it’s simply a way I think and live – a state of gratitude and thankfulness. My life feels so full of blessings, this is a part of the path to mindful wellness.